tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post4776982383367743759..comments2023-11-10T02:18:23.772-08:00Comments on Minnesota Matron: Battle CallMinnesota Matronhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16565431067927240183noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-88449958616151433982012-12-26T03:01:44.318-08:002012-12-26T03:01:44.318-08:00[URL=http://pharmacypills.atspace.co.uk/dostinex/d...[URL=http://pharmacypills.atspace.co.uk/dostinex/dostinex-coupons.html]dostinex coupons[/URL]<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-3385050439264851142010-01-28T08:18:34.720-08:002010-01-28T08:18:34.720-08:00Jennifer -- That's great to hear because that&...Jennifer -- That's great to hear because that's what we're doing. Merrick gets a 'surprise' after five stickers!Minnesota Matronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16565431067927240183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-20868060786704592612010-01-26T15:43:23.713-08:002010-01-26T15:43:23.713-08:00One thing we found with those charts is that you h...One thing we found with those charts is that you have to start the bribes out small. If the task is too immense, kids give up early. You can up the ante as you go. For example, for the first week he gets dressed on his own, he gets a sticker every day and after 5 stickers, a new cheap toy or something that lights a fire under him. After that, he still gets a sticker every time he gets dressed, but it might be 10 stickers before his next "treat". <br /><br />My oldest had a school teacher who didn't get it and would make him surmount these impossible challenges to get the reward (i.e. too many stickers per day for too many things). Early on, he told me, "I don't even bother to try to get the stickers, Mom, because it's too hard to get it all done by the end of the day." He never learned the lesson we were trying to teach that way, but I sure did: Start slow. <br /><br />Good luck. Tough love sucks ( I always cry more than they do), but sometimes it's the only way.Jennifernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-51547758151735801452010-01-26T14:31:40.756-08:002010-01-26T14:31:40.756-08:00Well, I understand you have to find what your chil...Well, I understand you have to find what your child's "currency" is - TV, games, friends, etc... you have the power when you control what matters to them. He's playing his cards - play yours :)Lyndahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13288134700542902198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-72591980222482458512010-01-26T11:44:59.260-08:002010-01-26T11:44:59.260-08:00Years ago I read that one should never threaten no...Years ago I read that one should never threaten nor bribe a child. Tell me, please, what else works?<br />JennyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-65112070202649704332010-01-26T11:17:11.987-08:002010-01-26T11:17:11.987-08:00You guys rock! Great words of wisdom, as usual. J...You guys rock! Great words of wisdom, as usual. Janet, you are absolutely right about Scarlett. More coming on this issue on Thursday!Minnesota Matronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16565431067927240183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-33791766375299923242010-01-26T10:38:16.741-08:002010-01-26T10:38:16.741-08:00I usually let my kids get away with a few fake day...I usually let my kids get away with a few fake days every year, but I let them know soon after that I know they faked but I decided to let them get away with it anyway because I know that school can be really dreary at times, especially for kids with lively minds. Also, you may want to check with playmates if there's some playground bullying or some other problem going on. Sam ran into that at JJHill, and there was a long, unhappy period before we found out what was really happening.Eric Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11045246958330186711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-88099437781970847642010-01-26T07:20:23.072-08:002010-01-26T07:20:23.072-08:00Even if he is not one to be conned by the old stic...Even if he is not one to be conned by the old sticker trick, he should feel better because both you and Scarlett are paying lots of attention to him. I imagine with all the Scarlett stuff going on, he might be feeling a little left out.<br />Also, be sure he has no well founded reason to be fearing school. He might need some long talks about what is happening there.janetnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-85297799278208732812010-01-26T05:10:24.179-08:002010-01-26T05:10:24.179-08:00Oh, those eyes! How can you resist?
I agree with...Oh, those eyes! How can you resist?<br /><br />I agree with Cheri. Self-medicate with Tootsie Rolls immediately.jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01074805816407286017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-15553696380059807682010-01-25T19:18:03.687-08:002010-01-25T19:18:03.687-08:00The reward chart had no impact on my free-spirited...The reward chart had no impact on my free-spirited 5-6 year old daughter. She will not bow to bribery either (ie: eat your food groups & get a treat). I made it a rule (& have maintained it) that there's no tv watching until she's done her tasks (ie: got ready for school &, after school, finished her homework). She loves tv (but only is permitted up to 2 hours non-commercialized tv per day & computer time is severely restricted too). I also have to rely on the "tough love" concept of suffering the natural consequences. She's had to go to school with teeth/hair unbrushed, and face unwashed.<br /><br />My younger child, meanwhile, performs perfectly on cue with all these little tricks. Go figure!<br /><br />Good luck, Merrick & Matron!MJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03010547516401501448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-36266831796633133572010-01-25T19:00:52.369-08:002010-01-25T19:00:52.369-08:00Awww, you have one who still has his baby teeth. ...Awww, you have one who still has his baby teeth. I am swayed by that and his brown eyes.Michele Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14619027601363738090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-85936042366566739502010-01-25T18:44:11.175-08:002010-01-25T18:44:11.175-08:00Hugs to you. Be ready for the possibility that he ...Hugs to you. Be ready for the possibility that he might not buy into the sticker chart. Some kids rationalize their way out of it or simply say "you're not fooling me one bit." But no matter what, you're doing right by him by insisting on some semblance of self-sufficiency.Daisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11647906900944224234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-59063224817149312582010-01-25T18:13:25.131-08:002010-01-25T18:13:25.131-08:00I have taken to bribery myself. My 8 year old lik...I have taken to bribery myself. My 8 year old likes to sleep on our bedroom floor. He usually comes in about 2:00 am. Just this weekend I told him I would pay him a quarter for each night he sleeps in his room. The twist is he must pay us 50 cents to sleep on our floor. So far 4 nights child free.alwayssomethinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10270127403908605630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-34415767048214007992010-01-25T15:56:07.282-08:002010-01-25T15:56:07.282-08:00I had a very similar problem with my son. He is n...I had a very similar problem with my son. He is now in 8th grade and still hates school. However, he no longer has to be dragged to the car. I'm hoping high school will be easier. Snort.jeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05925212233815659494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-47790936162568415062010-01-25T15:06:44.886-08:002010-01-25T15:06:44.886-08:00Scarlett and Merrick are constructing a big chart ...Scarlett and Merrick are constructing a big chart as I type. They're listing all of his 'jobs,' and how many jobs he needs to get done to get a sticker. They're totally into it. But this might be a kid who needs something special.Minnesota Matronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16565431067927240183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-17637340786794506842010-01-25T14:17:03.386-08:002010-01-25T14:17:03.386-08:00Tough love.Tough love.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-30763925774884602042010-01-25T13:55:42.914-08:002010-01-25T13:55:42.914-08:00Funny Green Girl would mention going to school nak...Funny Green Girl would mention going to school naked. Now you know I'm from the school of tough love--when I had this problem with my youngest daughter (in kindergarten) I simply put her and her clothes on the porch to wait for the carpool. She got dressed.Jenn @ Juggling Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14455967210924573398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-38212818561178958792010-01-25T13:43:29.377-08:002010-01-25T13:43:29.377-08:00Maybe if he went to school naked just once...
I...Maybe if he went to school naked just once...<br />I'm with Cheri--save a Tootsie Pop for you, Matron.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-2044020570054337552010-01-25T13:36:12.915-08:002010-01-25T13:36:12.915-08:00Home school? Bahahahahahahahaaaaaa. I crack myself...Home school? Bahahahahahahahaaaaaa. I crack myself up. My niece is 16 and hated school so much, and was failing miserably, that she found herself an online high school program and amazingly, after one semester, she has a B average. She still hates Spanish and math, but she DOES them. I can't say that would work for a 7 year old, but there are alternatives to a traditional school program.MidLifeMamahttp://mkosboth.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com