tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post3365133882996787868..comments2023-11-10T02:18:23.772-08:00Comments on Minnesota Matron: The Matron Needs a ConversationMinnesota Matronhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16565431067927240183noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-63819982318475626312009-02-28T22:09:00.000-08:002009-02-28T22:09:00.000-08:00Another book you've introduced that I'm interested...Another book you've introduced that I'm interested in picking up.<BR/><BR/>My son is only 5, but the speed in which he gets drawn in to time watching tv or on the computer is scary to me. I have to monitor and cut him off already...<BR/><BR/>It sounds like he's doing well in his life. Too funny on the Facebook.JCKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04582581376724478366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-84210217244165278152009-02-28T12:53:00.000-08:002009-02-28T12:53:00.000-08:00When you work this one out Matron, please pass alo...When you work this one out Matron, please pass along answers. I can already see this one shaping up with my first born, screen loving non-reader that he is.Wafflehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02907816708805451116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-44406781445168042302009-02-27T19:23:00.000-08:002009-02-27T19:23:00.000-08:00Thank you! The issue still burns through this hou...Thank you! The issue still burns through this household. Your words? Invaluable! I love mamas!!Minnesota Matronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16565431067927240183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-63017051852384464222009-02-27T10:00:00.000-08:002009-02-27T10:00:00.000-08:00I know your worry well--and it's much harder with ...I know your worry well--and it's much harder with the younger kids than the oldest ones because, frankly, you're really tired by the time your youngest is 14.<BR/><BR/>I don't know the solution, but I noticed things really slipping into too much screen time around here. I hid all the remotes and game controllers on Monday and we've had an excellent week with lots of reading and baking involved.Jenn @ Juggling Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14455967210924573398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-31394717209412282642009-02-26T19:33:00.000-08:002009-02-26T19:33:00.000-08:00Urgh. I know this issue will be coming here soon ...Urgh. I know this issue will be coming here soon too as my 5 year old had a fit when her 20 minutes computer time expired. I read this and see the writing in the far distance on a wall (even while wearing my nearsighted glasses).MJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03010547516401501448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-41588555674594525062009-02-26T18:47:00.000-08:002009-02-26T18:47:00.000-08:00Screen time "damage" can be insiduous. One more qu...Screen time "damage" can be insiduous. One more question: is his handwriting legible? Many kids grow up with weak fine motor skills because they do too much screen time, not enough hand exercise (playdough, etc.).Daisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11647906900944224234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-61770531659965692182009-02-26T15:12:00.000-08:002009-02-26T15:12:00.000-08:00I think giving children choices is important and a...I think giving children choices is important and allowing them to manage their free time is critical. If we forbid, restrict or limit something, that "thing" will become more desirable and more powerful. If we give them options, they'll learn how to make decisions. If we try to control them, they'll resent us. If kids are busy, busy, busy they need and deserve some time to do what THEY want to. Kids are smarter than we give them credit for when it comes to these sort of issues. I've found that when I take the time to explain my concerns and talk through issues (which requires LISTENING from BOTH sides) we're able to come to an acceptable resolution.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-21780379245992440102009-02-26T13:25:00.000-08:002009-02-26T13:25:00.000-08:00Simple time limits, with no explaining or arguing ...Simple time limits, with no explaining or arguing with him...he won't be happy, but there is no way for him to find different ways to amuse himself if the screen is always available...I know my kids would watch TV or play on the computer all the time if I didn't set strict limits. It's like potato chips - someone has to take the bag away.<BR/><BR/>Or go with what Cheri says - although if your gut is telling you there is too much screen time, you might want to listen to it.Suburban Correspondenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11488916572135296650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-61942944581896825902009-02-26T10:58:00.000-08:002009-02-26T10:58:00.000-08:00My eldest is soon to be 13 and has a heavy load in...My eldest is soon to be 13 and has a heavy load in "gifted" classes. Husband is a teacher. Parents are no techies and although up-to-date we are old fashioned in these ways: no cell phone, a cheapie MP3 player, not allowed on our one family computer unless he asks and Facebook is not even a vocab word. Plays video games with his two bros or friends. Plays baseball. Has friends near enuf to BIKERIDE to each others houses and plays football in yards with them. Earns his own money for past two years with two yard cutting customers in spring, summer, fall(our sons are taught in 5th grade by husband to mow, edge and blow). Not much else freetime but if they need it husband has them raking leaves or other chores to do. He likes to watch movies with his bros or with all of us. So not many screen items in our house but it is universal to pick our battles with them and for moms to worry about these sons who're hitting puberty.Michele Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17030846420862437581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-62711120781974194522009-02-26T10:57:00.000-08:002009-02-26T10:57:00.000-08:00I like the idea, Lynda! We sort of do that informa...I like the idea, Lynda! We sort of do that informally now as we wrap up screens at least half an hour before bedtime. Maybe a more formal rule . . . and a parts of me agree both with Cheri and Green Girl! If only we'd never! But at 13, they all live online.Minnesota Matronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16565431067927240183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-61112442131492651032009-02-26T10:53:00.000-08:002009-02-26T10:53:00.000-08:00Well, one thing I have learned from having a teen ...Well, one thing I have learned from having a teen is give them some choices...you choose the things...but they feel good about it when they choose...<BR/> perhaps something like: we're okay with all your screen time as long as your grades are okay, etc... however, we want you to choose at least one hour (or however much) a day of the following: reading, bike riding, whatever else interests him...which would you like to choose?Lyndahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13288134700542902198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-19116641741587861302009-02-26T10:27:00.000-08:002009-02-26T10:27:00.000-08:00Man, thanks for this--last night Mr. D and I went ...Man, thanks for this--last night Mr. D and I went to dinner and had a new debate about video games in our house. He is staunchly opposed while I'm starting to cave a bit--you've just added to his arguments. He would luff you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com