tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post3322586081831339936..comments2023-11-10T02:18:23.772-08:00Comments on Minnesota Matron: Yes! Yes! Says She Who Means NoMinnesota Matronhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16565431067927240183noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-80677780348037523022012-02-12T15:49:15.855-08:002012-02-12T15:49:15.855-08:00Dear Matron, I am so glad you have learned the lan...Dear Matron, I am so glad you have learned the language of "No." I've practiced it for the past year and it is a wonderful language. It saves my time and energy for the beauty of "Yes!"Karen (formerly kcinnova)https://www.blogger.com/profile/16705613736966783261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-52223550692473667822012-02-09T04:35:02.267-08:002012-02-09T04:35:02.267-08:00I agree, no is a word that needs to be practiced a...I agree, no is a word that needs to be practiced and exercised. My first experience with saying no to a myriad of requests came when my husband was first diagnosed with cancer. Saying no was easy then (and believe it or not, people still asked!) and it was so FREEEING!!! Oh, my gosh! I never forgot how good it felt and I've kept it up all these years later. I get really stressed personally when I say "yes" too much.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08556301919720689325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-11271543351073633962012-02-08T15:49:56.877-08:002012-02-08T15:49:56.877-08:00I think you have to be 40-ish to learn the power o...I think you have to be 40-ish to learn the power of "NO". I know I was. Perhaps as younger people we think we can do everything, and then as we age we realize we certainly can't. Good for you to recognize that power.Gailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00718166611471626534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-49066329059022847922012-02-08T13:28:20.213-08:002012-02-08T13:28:20.213-08:00"Stop me before I volunteer" is my middl..."Stop me before I volunteer" is my middle name. I think I need intensive counselling to get "no" as part of my vocabulary.MJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03010547516401501448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-90759890171297242102012-02-08T11:34:15.480-08:002012-02-08T11:34:15.480-08:00I've learned two things: "No" means...I've learned two things: "No" means someone else will have an opportunity (good thing) and it alleviates the resentment building inside me when I say "yes" and don't mean it (VERY good thing).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-75119605286150426522012-02-08T08:54:26.900-08:002012-02-08T08:54:26.900-08:00Anonymous: no. Never, ever. I get requests fro...Anonymous: no. Never, ever. I get requests from students all the time to 'edit' their work. I don't even edit their papers in my classes. But I don't do free editing/writing for students past or present because that's my job : -)! And you? Fellow teacher?Minnesota Matronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16565431067927240183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-33043516654414080352012-02-08T08:41:39.845-08:002012-02-08T08:41:39.845-08:00This anonymous reader must know: Would you ever ha...This anonymous reader must know: Would you ever have said yes to the student email?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-12004145150975263772012-02-07T20:49:42.526-08:002012-02-07T20:49:42.526-08:00I don't have any problem with no, myself; but ...I don't have any problem with no, myself; but I do think that many women over-volunteer because we are wired for connection. Volunteering is a way to connect.<br /><br />Oh, and an editor should earn 30 dollars an hour, at least. I average 40. Perhaps if you say yes and include your rates, that would slow down the requests.Suburban Correspondenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11488916572135296650noreply@blogger.com