tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post3145783636046091869..comments2023-11-10T02:18:23.772-08:00Comments on Minnesota Matron: Some Philosophical WaxingMinnesota Matronhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16565431067927240183noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-22418972053773472112008-08-31T13:49:00.000-07:002008-08-31T13:49:00.000-07:00Parenting is just like Disney World and Magic Moun...Parenting is just like Disney World and Magic Mountain it all does keep moving but don't blink its all over in a short time. Then after the laptop they are off to the races themselves. Great Read!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-719413638950587362008-08-24T10:15:00.000-07:002008-08-24T10:15:00.000-07:00Thank you, Mary for your suggestion of the book. ...Thank you, Mary for your suggestion of the book. I'll definitely read it.<BR/><BR/>Yes, the baby is apparently a boy, but this was not fully clear to the technician; another commentary on technology, perhaps.<BR/><BR/>Thanks, also, for your well wishes. I'll drop you an e-mail.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-51648277631583885032008-08-23T15:24:00.000-07:002008-08-23T15:24:00.000-07:00Anonymous - lost your email address but if you zap...Anonymous - lost your email address but if you zap me one at petri017 at umn.edu I'm always open for a conversation about mothering boys. Thinking of you. . .Minnesota Matronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16565431067927240183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-74123960950019166372008-08-23T14:52:00.000-07:002008-08-23T14:52:00.000-07:00Anonymous writes . . . . Ultimately, I think of yo...Anonymous writes . . . . <BR/><BR/>Ultimately, I think of young boys, drunk on the elixir of on-line pornography, affected by glamorized, plastic images of womanhood that may render them incapable of respecting, relating to and understanding real women, forming any meaningful, life sustaining bonds.<BR/><BR/><BR/>If you have a boy, read Boys Adrift by Leonard Sax. He says just this. I know many amazing, wonderful and caring boys too -- including mine, who might be fully wired but is as compassionate and concerned about others as I am. I think the difference, as people say here is that we talk, we hug, we are together in the physical world. <BR/><BR/>And I miss the old classroom, too. Never heard about the famous British professor but I would disagree. . . in fact, I'm teaching an online etiquette course at our college and the course talks a lot about how to write online. As in, use salutations when writing your professor instead of just 'hey there.'<BR/><BR/>Hope the birth goes perfectly!!!Minnesota Matronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16565431067927240183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-39856404287800611902008-08-23T09:49:00.000-07:002008-08-23T09:49:00.000-07:00I'm with Cheri--it's always happened this way, it'...I'm with Cheri--it's always happened this way, it's just happening faster.<BR/><BR/>I think it boils down to what it always has--communicating with your kids.Jenn @ Juggling Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14455967210924573398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-42126200266491610652008-08-22T21:27:00.000-07:002008-08-22T21:27:00.000-07:00Fortunately, in the midst of so many unknown cyber...Fortunately, in the midst of so many unknown cyber frontiers, there are bloggers willing to connect the old fashioned way. With words that make us think, and smile, and feel not so alone.shrink on the couchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13271891110211081990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-78269172865928922022008-08-22T21:11:00.000-07:002008-08-22T21:11:00.000-07:00Jeez...I have a teenager and have faced this issue...Jeez...I have a teenager and have faced this issue...basically, I think you just have to be involved. Be subliminal... be THERE...we can think ourselves into so many situations and never scratch the surface of what IS. Hopefully, we adjust the boundaries to keep our kids balanced. And, maybe just let them see WE have boundaries, too.Lyndahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13288134700542902198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-14752873772069559312008-08-22T07:48:00.000-07:002008-08-22T07:48:00.000-07:00Mary, When I lecture to a sea of laptops, students...Mary,<BR/><BR/> When I lecture to a sea of laptops, students lost in e-mailing, texting, posting, surfing (legitimate sites and x-rated ones), gaming, etc., I lament lost worlds. I recall, with almost anachronistic feel, a professor in Psychology 100 who pointed her finger towards a hall of over 300 students, scoped out one, and said, "You, reading the paper, you're being very rude." Now, as you noted earlier Mary, many never bother with a paper, on-line or in print.<BR/><BR/>Sadly, I wouldn't know where to start. I wouldn't know how to instill any interest beyond that of the next mouse click.<BR/><BR/>I lament eerily quite streets that once may have teemed with children; children today, sociologists tell us, obese from spending too much time in front various screens.<BR/><BR/>Luddite? Yes and no. <BR/><BR/>Ultimately, I think of young boys, drunk on the elixir of on-line pornography, affected by glamorized, plastic images of womanhood that may render them incapable of respecting, relating to and understanding real women, forming any meaningful, life sustaining bonds.<BR/><BR/>Ultimately, I think of a prominent British professor who is advocating we accept alternate grammatical constructions, text messaging as legitimate language, because to aim and fight it is a losing battle. We may already have lost the war. "2Bad4U," a student might say. Adapt or perish.<BR/><BR/>I'm expecting to give birth any day now, and I've frequently left the nursery door closed, and it's still not fully ready for his arrival. It's a space that is controlled and safe, territory so virginal and pure right now, only to later be left behind into worlds real and virtual, with all their challenges and dangers. I sit in a corner of the room at times, and lament this little world, so soon to disappear.<BR/><BR/>Thank you, as always, for writing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-40470835602510027662008-08-22T06:42:00.000-07:002008-08-22T06:42:00.000-07:00Very insightful and wise. I've given my kids almo...Very insightful and wise. I've given my kids almost no cyberworld and so much freedom to roam out here in the country--I don't know how 75 acres translates in city blocks, but they have full free range on it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-45787053356614976012008-08-22T06:32:00.000-07:002008-08-22T06:32:00.000-07:00I think the most troubling aspect is not that the ...I think the most troubling aspect is not that the world as we know it is changing, but the alarming speed with which it seems to be spiraling out of control. <BR/><BR/>I think as children, we had a little more time to *be* children and not get sucked under by the tidal forces pulling us toward (real or percieved) maturity.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-40305295623104397852008-08-21T22:52:00.000-07:002008-08-21T22:52:00.000-07:00If there is going to be a pop quiz on this later t...If there is going to be a pop quiz on this later then I need to study harder.Tootsie Farklepantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18336671002327112885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-83458867560504423472008-08-21T20:11:00.000-07:002008-08-21T20:11:00.000-07:00Whatever it's called, it scares the crap out of me...Whatever it's called, it scares the crap out of me. How in the world do we protect them and give them boundaries with things I don't understand?<BR/><BR/>Being in the blog-world helps - all you ladies out there keep me 'in the know' and that helps, but still.<BR/><BR/>Let me know when you figure it out, will you? I could use some help too.Angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06590585650894114884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-79727387448733411842008-08-21T19:44:00.000-07:002008-08-21T19:44:00.000-07:00We live in strange - and often exciting - times.I ...We live in strange - and often exciting - times.<BR/><BR/>I was playing around on Facebook yesterday. (Cyber crack.) Anyhoo, I was inundated with connecting and chatting and I felt completely overwhelmed.<BR/><BR/>I can't imagine being 12 and overwhelmed.<BR/><BR/>Interesting thoughts.<BR/><BR/>(And thanks for your kind words today.)Lisa Wheeler Miltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07386193798727387546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7381811875173852585.post-59144088541355258082008-08-21T18:10:00.000-07:002008-08-21T18:10:00.000-07:00Interesting dichotomy, isn't it. What a skewed "re...Interesting dichotomy, isn't it. What a skewed "reality" so many kids are growing up on.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com